When my youngest son was a pre-schooler he felt a bit left out. His brothers belonged to sports teams, went out with friends and got to go to school but he was stuck at home with his parents. To help him feel special I began a tradition of taking him on ‘dates’. He and I would sit and talk over hot chips at our local café. These times became precious to both of us.
Why were these small pockets of time so impactful? Because my son had my full and undivided attention – one-on-one. He didn’t have to compete with his brothers, my phone or my work to get my attention. Time and attention are important aspects of developing a sense of belonging. The recipients of our time and attention feel valued, special and important.
Another important part of helping our children and young people to feel valued is investing in their interests. I have become an expert on dinosaurs, football, Star Wars and computer games, all by spending time listening, laughing and learning.
Recently my son sat with his grandfather and heard stories about his great grandparents. As he listened, he was excited to identify character traits from the past that he believes he possesses or aspires to possess. Understanding our family, our culture and our history further builds a sense of identity and belonging.
I believe the biggest impact of all on belonging is unconditional love and acceptance; the kind of love that God offers us. When children feel that sense of security from their families, they are more likely to be confident and willing to take risks as they learn and grow.Who knows, you might become a dinosaur expert!
What marvellous love the Father has extended to us! Just look at it—we’re called children of God! That’s who we really are! 1 John 3:1
Mrs Deb Cooper
Principal
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